How to gain the ability to get along with anyone and everyone?
I don't have to get into every topic.
Never confront anyone about anything. Just let it go. But if you have to, do it politely and suggestively.
If others don't co-operate / don't agree / don't join, don't want to Co-operate / don't want to behave themselves, leave it, it's not working your time.
If you choose some, you have to reject the other. Some get more attention, some less. Some get focus, some go out of sight.
Some ground rules as I think about this:
Don't be / become a part of ANY controversy. Stay away from it, avoid it.
Never raise your voice.
Never push your story.
Avoid engaging in negative gossip
Never speak against someone behind their back / when they are not there
Never say anything to the leader, whoever he/she is, whatever they do, however they behave.
Wish everyone. Greet everyone.
If you don't like something - DON'T give feedback, nobody wants it. Even if asked for it.
If you don't like something, instead put a suggestion forward, asking whether something can be a better idea for all.
Have a reputation (what others will speak about you behind your back) that you always speak positive and good things about other people, and other organisations, even behind their back / even if you are not a part of it.
Cultivate an attitude to seek the good in everything that comes your way. Find the good, detect the good stuff
Appreciate everything and everyone, however small. I may feel it's small and nothing. Just appreciate it. The attitude of appreciation is more important that the attitude of gratitude.
Points by Prashant DS
Some points by Sushant Manerkar
Some points by Pradip Da Costa
Some points by Rahul Sangole
Point by Clare Noronha
Francesco from Catenians
Additional points....
Hi ! Sure Adrian - Let me break it into two parts -Be transparent to yourself” meaning See yourself clearly.
This is about honest self-awareness.
To be “transparent” means there’s nothing hidden, denied, or distorted within you.
Acknowledge your true emotions example like fear, grief, anger, love without masking them
Notice your motives—why you say or do something
Recognize your patterns—how you react under stress, loss, or uncertainty
It’s like holding up a clear mirror to your inner life—without filters, excuses, or judgment.
The second part - Through personal inquiry” — Ask yourself the right questions
This clarity doesn’t come automatically—you cultivate it by actively questioning yourself.
Examples of personal inquiry:
What am I really feeling right now?
Why did that situation trigger me?
Am I acting out of fear, ego, or compassion?
What am I avoiding?
This is not interrogation—it’s curious, compassionate exploration.
In short - Have the courage to see yourself exactly as you are—and the curiosity to understand why. My take is first we need to get along well with our own selves and hence the above thought , only then we may be able to get well with others 😊
